Thursday, May 17, 2007

Married w/Kids vs. Single

When you have kids, your friends without kids sort of fall off. They all say, “No, no! We’ll still come around!”

And for the first few weeks, they do.

But too soon, the phone stops ringing. Yes, they called you the last 17 times they were going out for cocktails. And 17 times you said, “Sorry, we (are beat/broke/sick) can’t make it… maybe next time.”

I guess by the 18th time, they know the answer.

Of course, there are the folks who continue to make the effort. Those are your real friends. And yes, you can still alienate them.

Let me tell how.

Your very good single friend comes over and you start to chit-chat. You start with the usual catch up stuff and then you move on to the pink elephant in the room – your baby. Pretty soon you’re arguing the finer points of minivans and fast bottle nipples for late night feeding.

Their eyes glaze over as they make surreptitious, fidgety glances at their watches. Then they beg off staying for dinner as they actually have plans to go out for the evening.

The really, really sad thing is that I know how boring my theory of night feedings is to the uninitiated. But. I. Can’t. Help. My. Self. I have to share it.

How long before I break out videos of The Squeaker sleeping or my poopy diaper comparison graph charts?

God, we really need to develop more friends with kids.

[ed.note: speaking of videos, here's one I shot with P.Pie's new cell phone... what a cool toy!]


Blogger Jen aka Evilynmo said...

Hilarious and soo true! =)

5/18/2007 6:43 AM  
Anonymous sudiegirl said...

speaking as a single person with "childful" is a tricky situation.

sometimes, single people get the short end of the stick, and asked to "babysit". Meaning they drop by to say howdy and then the parent realizes they have a captive audience and BOOM! "Could you stay here a few minutes and watch the baby while I go to the store/climb Mt. Everest/meet the President for nachos?"

My own sister pulled this crap on me all the time, and it really hurt. I love my nieces and nephews but sometimes i just wanted to hang out with her and the kids.

so there is another side to the argument...but I would hang out with your sweet baby anytime. :-)

5/18/2007 6:48 AM  
Blogger Lainey-Paney said...

True, so true.

And, it's not so much the "single" part as in, "single, not married, not attached." It's the "unitiated" part.

They just have no idea.
No idea.

5/18/2007 8:27 AM  
Anonymous P'Pie said...

Ok so I may have watched the video several 100 times now. It a quick fix for a mommy missing her girl!

5/18/2007 1:31 PM  
Blogger Librarina said...

That video is damn adorable! I love when they first start to babble... And I totally understand about knowing that you're boring and still not being able to control it... Oh well, right?!? Who ever said it was bad to love your kid?

5/18/2007 7:12 PM  
Blogger Kila said...

How cute :)

Yeah, until you have one, you just can't relate.

5/18/2007 9:05 PM  
Blogger creative-type dad said...

Yeah, our childless friends kind of stopped coming around. We see them on occasion but they always ask if we're getting a sitter. It's like they think the kid bites.

We started making friends with other couples with small kids. It's weird. It's kind of like dating:

I hope they call...
Do you think they think we're too weird...
I'm not sure I like them...

5/19/2007 10:40 PM  
Blogger Gidge said...

When I was pregnant with #1 I described it to my NONCHILDBEARING FRIENDS as "Having been given keys to a kingdom I didn't know existed."
I still feel the same, but for the most part, none of them ever got it.

5/21/2007 5:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Awesome! A kicky, cooing, smiling baby. Nothing better to end the days woes. Thanks for posting.

5/21/2007 5:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As an "uninitiated" individual who never intends to be "initated", I have to say it is totally frustrating when your friends abandon you for these new little creatures.

It is like all the years you spend together building common interests and bonds are not only gone, but replaced with conversations about breat pads and dirty diapers. We feel like victims of years of false advertising!

Of course babies are miracles and all that stuff and you SHOULD spend every moment being obsessed with your offspring. Just don't blame the rest of us if we can't be.

Cute kid though.

5/22/2007 7:26 AM  

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