Tuesday, March 06, 2007

Memorial Service

A memorial service for Doss will be held at the Spirit of Christ Catholic Community in Arvada, CO. this Saturday, March 10th at 1 p.m. followed by a reception at the home of the Robertsons.

Many people have asked me where they can send flowers and/or cards. In lieu of flowers and cards, please send donations to the USAA College Savings for Jorja Rail Barron, account #502244368-01. Make Checks Payable to: USAA College Savings, In Check Notes Line: Jorja Rail Barron

Mail To:
USAA College Savings Plan
P.O. Box 55354
Boston Ma, 02205-5354

[ed. note: USAA does not track from whom the donations come. If you prefer, you may mail the donations to me (made out to USAA College Savings) and I will make sure the checks are sent to the proper location. Email me at rob AT thewrittenrob DOT com for the address.]


Anonymous MetroDad said...

God bless, Rob. As always, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Deepest condolences to all of you.

3/06/2007 8:31 PM  
Anonymous ali said...

i just got sent over here from Her Bad Mother. I don't have the words. My heart goes out to you and your family.

3/06/2007 8:48 PM  
Blogger Annie, The Evil Queen said...

I came by at the urging of Hre Bad Mother and I just want to say I'm so very sorry for your loss. There are no words to soften this loss. You family is in my prayers.

3/06/2007 11:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh i am so sorry for your loss.i'm here from HBM too.what a sweet and precious little boy...LAVENDULA

3/06/2007 11:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm another stranger who has come over from Her Bad Mother and been moved to tears by your beautiful family. I am so sorry for your loss.

I hope you don't mind me recommending a website that you may wish to turn to at some point? www.tcf.org.uk is the website for the UK branch of The Compassionate Friends, a charity which supports bereaved parents and families after the loss of a child. Of course, the site is open to parents from all over the world.

Since my sister died, my mother has found comfort in reading and sometimes participating in the discussions and messageboard. I have too.

Thinking of you.

3/07/2007 5:51 AM  
Anonymous Jenny said...

I don't know what to say except that I'm so sorry and that I'm praying for your family.

Bless you all.

3/07/2007 6:00 AM  
Blogger Kate said...

You have deep sympathy and appreciation from some woman in New Hampshire. That baby-shaped hole in your heart, there? I wish no one ever had to know what it was like. The shape and the size and the emptiness of it.

I'm so glad that your arms are not left empty, and I hope that, in some form or another, Jorja feels her brother's presence in her life stretching on to the horizon.

Be well, and may none of the Grief Police, those who will attempt to tell you how and when and whether to grieve, find their way to your doorstep.

3/07/2007 6:58 AM  
Anonymous Jenny P said...

Also sent by HBM.
I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy.
My sister lost her little twin boy Teddy at 10 days after a prolapsed cord. She has since been very involved in CLIMB, an organisation devoted to supporting parents of multiple birth loss. If you feel like reaching out for that kind of support, they will help you in any way they can.
I hope the joy your daughter gives you can help bring you through this.

3/07/2007 8:30 AM  
Blogger Robbin said...

My deepest sympathies at the loss of your son. I have a 20-month-old son of my own who I have loved madly from the moment he made his first cry. While one child can never replace another, I only hope that your sadness may be tempered in the years to come by your joy in your daughter.

And as a personal note - I am a surviving twin who did not find out about it until I was well into my teens. Please share your memory of your son with Jorja. I feel I missed out on a big part of my own birth story as a result.

3/07/2007 8:50 AM  
Blogger Gala said...

My deep sympathy to your family during this hard time.

This site helped me once. Maybe it will give you some comfort too:

Hugs and Love.

3/07/2007 10:14 AM  
Blogger Lainey-Paney said...

I'm so sorry for your loss...
and I cannot imagine how hard all of this must be on your whole family...

3/07/2007 12:08 PM  
Blogger Lizzy said...

And also visiting via Her Bad Mother.

I'm so sorry for your loss. There simply are no words.

3/07/2007 1:27 PM  
Blogger NHDOLL said...

You don't know me but I felt compelled to wish you all the best of love and understanding in this great time of need. May god bless you and your family with love, understanding, and serenity in this time of great pain.

With great love and pain
Rhonda Nichols

3/07/2007 1:49 PM  
Blogger braiding mommy said...

Visiting from HBM as well...

I am so sorry for your loss. Your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers.

3/07/2007 1:58 PM  
Blogger Lumpyheadsmom said...

Directed here from Sarah and the Goon Squad. I am so sorry.

3/07/2007 2:16 PM  
Blogger Amanda said...

Another Her Bad Mother sent visitor.

There are no words, just heartfelt, soul deep wishes for a happy and healthy life for your family filled with laughter and magic that will be a soundtrack for Doss' spirit.

3/07/2007 2:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My heart aches for your family during your time of sorrow. I hope you have comfort in knowing your precious son is no longer in any pain and will watch his beautiful sister throughout her life.

3/07/2007 4:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got sent over by AdventureDad. I'm sorry for your loss.

Lots of hugs.

3/07/2007 5:41 PM  
Anonymous Ericka said...

I am so very sorry for you loss. Being a twin myself and having them as well I cannot imagine the deep pain your going through. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers

3/07/2007 5:49 PM  
Blogger Mamma said...

Oh Rob!! I am so sorry for the loss you and your family has experienced. Doss was a beautiful boy and his sister looks to be an amazing light through which his memory will survive.

I think your decision about the cremation was amazing. I don't know if I would have had the vision for the future.

I know there is nothing to say...but please know if there was I would scream it from the top of a mountain for everyone to hear.

I wish you strength at this time and peace in the future.

3/07/2007 8:17 PM  
Anonymous Roz said...

Your little girl is beautiful- congratulations! My wishes to your family that the void be filled with fond memories and the new and wonderful experiences still on their way. I'm deeply sorry for your loss.

3/07/2007 8:18 PM  
Blogger Vinny said...

Adventure Dad sent me over. I cannot imagine the combination of sorrow and joy in your life. I will add my prayers to those of the others who have stopped by. May you, Jorja, and P.Pie have all blessings before you as you deal with the sorrows of today.

3/07/2007 8:44 PM  
Blogger Whit said...

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I hope your baby girl is doing well.

You are in the midst of a strong community, let us know if you need us.

3/08/2007 1:07 AM  
Blogger Jenni said...

Rob and P.Pie, HBM sent me over. I have read your posts with every possible emotion. If we knew how our capacity for fear and pain would increase with children, who would choose to parent? But, thankfully, our capacity to love is even greater. Jorja is perfect. You will be in our prayers.

3/08/2007 7:19 AM  
Blogger kgirl said...

My deepest sympathies to your family.

My mother-in-law lost her twin, but has always felt as though she were still with her. May your family know the same peace.

3/08/2007 11:46 AM  
Blogger Henri said...


This is the twentienth time I've tried to post something to you...but the words never seem right. I realize now that they never can be.

I'm so sorry Rob. My heart goes out to you and your family.


3/08/2007 4:33 PM  
Anonymous L.A. Daddy said...

Rob, know that we'll be with you there in spirit on Saturday.

3/09/2007 2:58 PM  
Blogger Joker The Lurcher said...

my good friend is the survivor of triplets. one died at birth and her twin died as an adult. my friend grieves hard but is a most amazing and wise person because of this. i hope things become less painful over time for you and your wife.

3/09/2007 4:04 PM  
Blogger Dave said...

With condolences and prayers for your loss and shared joy for your new child.

3/16/2007 11:59 AM  
Blogger Melisa said...

Ok- so I am a little late to reading your blog, but I am a new mommy of twin girls born July 18, 2008. Mine also spent time in the NICU- 14 days actually and man, I can more than relate to the ups and downs and not being able to get honest information. So frustrating.

I am so sorry for your loss and I am thinking of your family as your beautiful baby girl is now over a year old! I hope the year has been wonderful and the memory of your incredible little son has been joyful!

9/16/2008 10:26 AM  

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